Need A Lot Of Advice About Confusing Ex! Please Help Me! I Am Desperate!!!?
ByHi guys I know this is pretty long but please help me out if you can find it in your heart to aid a really down college student.
I will choose a best answer and dish out points whenever possible
Alright so basically, my ex-girlfriend and I broke up like 3 months ago because she said that she needed time to “grow up”. Basically, we decided to still be friends because we really still like each other and get along great. However, I am still very much in love with her.
The problem is that lately I’ve been feeling really down around my ex and kind of jealous and I don’t know why. She’s basically perfect at everything. She’s very attractive because a lot of guys flirt with her, wears size 00 pants, exercises constantly, her parents are wealthier than mine as she lives in a half a million dollar house and her dad retired at the age of 48, she always gets whatever she wants (material-wise) i.e. she has two pairs of Uggs, wears all Abercrombie clothing, gets the newest iPod every year, breaks her cell phone at least 3 times a year, has two pairs of Sperry type shoes, and gets Tiffany and Co. jewelry costing around $175 once a year (She gets all this stuff usually for Christmas or just because presents but she always gets whats on her list of wants), she makes friends easily, has time to join lots of clubs in college, works as a store model for Abercrombie and has a higher GPA than me while majoring in journalism, and sometimes I feel like she has all of God’s blessing even though she is extremely atheist.
However, I am the complete opposite as I always work for what I get. I’m in one of the top 10 business schools in the nation but struggle to maintain a 3.0 GPA and spend most of my time studying, I haven’t met very many people in college because I’m trying to save money by living at home with my parents (my ex lives in the dorms which her parents pay for even though her parents live 2 blocks away from campus), I spend all my free time at home, I don’t find myself as attractive because I’ve only worked for American Eagle and I am Asian, my parents want me to earn things so I have to work to pay for my clothes, cell phone, car repairs and other stuff I want unlike my ex.
I just feel crappy to the point that I’ve been unmotivated to study and I want to sleep all day. I’ve stopped going to the gym and I have been wallowing in my own self-pity, I’m always wishing that my parents were a lot richer because my ex gets to finish college at her own pace while I’m pressured to finish in 4 while her parents can also afford to let her take summer classes not only at where we go to school but to other colleges such as New York University and/or Chicago to make her workload easier while I don’t have that luxury. She also got a chance to study abroad twice.
The only thing I feel like I have an advantage over her is that I know how to invest and save my money better than her because she can’t save her own money at all. She doesn’t even know how the basic definition of a stock or how a credit and debit card work. I am very ambitious and always look for ways to make extra money through investing and saving but I always still feel down because I know that she’ll still get ahead of me in the future because her father is already investing money for her for her retirement in the thousands already.
Not only does she get all that stuff but her little sister and her brother get all the stuff they want to. Her sister basically gets everything my ex does like a new iPod at the same time my ex does and wears Abercrombie only also. However, if she doesn’t get her way at all, she always throws a fit (I’ve been there to witness it) until she gets her way. I don’t understand how she gets all this stuff either. Is it possible to get a life like this when her dad worked as an engineer for GM for 20 years and is now retired and her mom is a territorial manager for Johnson and Johnson?
Despite all this I feel like God’s let me down. Why does he bless people that don’t believe in him? Should I stay away from my ex even though I still love her? She is white and we’ve known each other for 4 years and dated each other for 2 and a half years. Can a relationship with 2 different people like this work out again? Why do I feel this way? I get really jealous because no girls flirt with me at college compared to guys hitting on her. What should I do? Am I even in her league at all?
3 Comments
November 28th, 2009 at 10:10 am
wowserz, she seems like she will be getting no where in life with begin independent. you don’t need a girl like that, remind yourself, you do not want to be putting up with a girl like her, she seems stuck up and ungrateful..who cares how much she has, god made you the way you are because he has big plans for you, but you have to believe it!! god made her like that because she needs help…don’t worry about ther love life, it may be hardd..being lonely sometimes..but your time will come dont rush nature…just go with the flow of the river, rocks will be thrown but you will flow right pass them..I’m sure your strong, dont let it get you down.
keep doing your day job!! forget her, remember who you aare..and theres no comparison between you to..
you probably have a much better family life with yours than she does with her own, and thats most important.
her parents..seem..like they dont know what there doing, and its annoying, but we learn to live with people like them, and thaats life.
-hope the words of a high school student help =D
strength, leads to succes…
p.s. your way out of her league, why?
your beyond her, you have MUCH MUCHH MORE than you can see!
November 28th, 2009 at 2:38 pm
You should feel lucky, your parents are teaching you how to deal with life in the real world. You are learning to appreciate the value of things while she is being handed everything. If the economy continues as it is, and your families were to lose everything, she wouldn’t be able to cope. She doesn’t know how to take care of herself, and if you ended up with her, you would have a spoiled brat that you would have to work your butt off for. She wouldn’t appreciate what you gave her and expect more, because that is what she is use to.
Count yourself luck you have gotten away from such a materialistic girl.
November 28th, 2009 at 3:29 pm
well first i would have to say that it is possible to make that much money, her mom probably makes a good amount alone. (6 figure income) it doesnt neccesarily mean that shes blessed, her parents are the ones blessed, shes not doing anything on her own shes getting everything she wants through her parents. God hasnt let you down, i mean, look where your at, your at a great business school, once you graduate you will get a great job and start your life. you seem jealous of her life and ive felt that way about my rich friends. you sound more jealous of her life then of guys flirting with her and stuff though.. i think you two can work out if you both want it. You have to decide on your own if you want to be friends with her till shes ready (she may not and she may not wanna go back out) or just give up on her and do your own thing. either way Goodluck, i hope i answered all the questions you asked and hope it was of some help to you.